Do you have a fantasy of sharing your partner? Or perhaps you yourself want to be shared?
This doesn’t have anything to do with how much you love your partner or how devoted to them you are. Kinks are kinks regardless of your romantic feelings, and sometimes you just want to discuss them with your significant other in hopes of them helping you bring those kinks to life.
It’s not easy when you essentially want to have sex with someone else but still remain in your long-term loving relationship. Most people won’t understand that it’s not about cheating. It’s not about your partner not being enough.
It’s simply a fetish that you’ve always wanted to try. A promise of an orgasm that will likely shatter you in all the best ways.
So, here is my story about how my husband and I embarked on a partner-sharing journey. It hasn’t been the smoothest, but it was more than worth it in the end.
Perhaps my experiences will inspire you to bring this topic up with your partner and see whether or not this is something both of you could enjoy.
Let’s start from the beginning.
My Husband and I Are Happily Married, But…
The start of our relationship wasn’t anything special. We met, we fell in love, and eventually got married. I’ve been with my husband for over 10 years now, and we are more than happy. He is my lover and my best friend, and I couldn’t ask for a better life companion.
Our sex life has always been mindblowing, there’s no doubt about that.
However, at some point, I started realizing that I never truly lived out any of my sexual fantasies. I am a kinky person at heart, but in real life, I can get awkward and shy. I only ever slept with two guys, one of which is my husband.
But I wanted to try sex with strangers, one night stands, threesomes… I’ve always had a fantasy of including more people in our playtime. Partner-sharing was high on my list of unrealized kinks.
I didn’t keep any of this from my husband. Almost from day one, he was in the know about what I liked and what I craved in bed, and he wasn’t opposed to it. In fact, he was very direct in telling me how he’d like to see me with another man.
Finding Out He Really Did Want To Share Me With Another Man
The day when I realized how into this, my husband was was one of the best days of my life.
It was another lazy evening at our house, us with a bottle of wine and some show on TV. We talked about everything and nothing, as we usually did, and once again, we arrived at the topic of sex. And then he said it; calmly, cooly, he said how he thought about it and how he would actually like to watch me have sex with someone else.
I got so horny at his words that I couldn’t stop myself from riding my man right then and there on our couch. We almost spilled the wine.
That’s when we started easing into the whole thing. We went online in search of wife sharing guides and instructions on how to do this properly, and we started preparing. Lot’s of the best advice was found on these hotwife Reddits. I was so incredibly happy.
To make sure we were both in agreement about this and that there weren’t any negative emotions around the idea of me having sex with someone else, we tried all sorts of simulations.
These included using toys like this suction cup dildo, this butt plug, and even this amazing sex machines while I pretended it was another man fucking me. My husband watched from the sidelines and touched himself and those experimentation moments were so amazing for us both. We were both out of our minds from how horny we were, and my fantasy grew more and more with each passing each day.
I’m Too Awkward To Be Shared (but, I crave it)
It got to the point where I was thinking about other men and potential threesomes almost every night.
But there was also a different side to all this. While my husband was incredibly supportive and encouraging and our sex life only improved throughout all of this, I still had my doubts and my insecurities.
Namely, no one other than my husband had seen my body in 10 years. I wasn’t in my twenties anymore. I was thirty and a lot has changed since I was all young and tight.
I was far from sagging or unattractive in any way, but I still worried. Would another man want to have sex with me? Would he find me ugly? Too awkward? I was never a social butterfly; I never went out to clubs, I was never good at flirting… How was I supposed to entice another guy to have sex with me while my husband was in the same room with us?
It seemed like an impossible obstacle to overcome at that time.
My Amazing Husband Fixed All These Problems
This is where I once again reiterate how grateful I am that I had my man by my side every step of the way. He was not only supportive and kind, but he was also the one to take the initiative in this whole thing.
While we were having fun with our own bedroom experiments and role-plays with toys, my husband signed up for some swinger and dating sites. He made profiles for us as a couple and listed us as looking for single men to fuck me in a hotwifing/cuckold type scenario.
I was apprehensive about this at first, but he nudged me into speaking to the men who would message us. I didn’t know what to expect, I was still worried I would come off ass too clumsy or shy or just plain weird.
But my husband was there, and with his help, I took this massive step, actually communicating my fantasies to a person who was interested in making them happen for me.
It wasn’t long before I finally relaxed. The men I talked to were real people, go figure, and they were nothing but polite. There was no judgment, no rude behavior, just normal men who wanted to learn more about me, about my husband, about what exactly we were looking for. Men who wanted to please me. I was giddy at the thought.
The Dating Site We Used
In our humble experience, meeting potential partners online is probably the easiest way to go about fulfilling your partner-sharing fantasies. The site we used – and are still using – is Adult Friend Finder. Much of it is free, but we also signed up for a premium account because we were just enjoying it so damn much.
If you’re not sure where to start looking for future sex partners, Adult Friend Finder is truly an amazing place. Very open and welcoming and full of people who are just as kinky in bed as you are. Making a profile, there was a great decision on my husband’s part.
The Man My Husband Shared Me With
We didn’t find the right guy immediately. Even though we were getting plenty of messages each day – 10 to 20 on average – we still couldn’t find the right candidate. Either they weren’t into the idea of my husband watching or they didn’t feel right for us. We didn’t have any specific traits that the guy had to have, but we knew instantly when someone didn’t fit the bill.
Saying no wasn’t as difficult as I thought it would be. The guys I politely rejected were totally cool with it, as this saved a lot of time on both sides. We could all move on to other people without feeling led on in any way. Online chatting had loosened me up a lot. I could never imagine I’d be so comfortable with talking to strangers about sex, given how awkward that was for me in real life.
After weeks of chatting, however, we finally found the right guy.
He was older, early 40s, and he was the one to message us first. I still remember how instantly calmed I was by his way of talking. He was confident, smooth, open and honest, and it wasn’t long before he sent us pictures of him. At first, those were just selfies that made me realize he was so very handsome. Then he also sent some nudes so we could see his body. He had a massive cock. I got wet just by looking at it.
He had no problems with my husband being a part of it and watching. His understanding tone and impressive physique ultimately convinced us that he was the right guy to try this with for the first time. He wasn’t needy like any of the other men we talked to, not immature or inexperienced. He had an air of quiet assuredness about him that I couldn’t resist.
To keep ourselves safe and to check whether he really was who he said he was (a must in online communication, I’m afraid), we had Skype chats and video calls a few times. His voice was heavenly, and I felt weak at his smile. I couldn’t wait for him to fuck me.
Once we arranged the details of everything, the guy offered to book a hotel. He said he would bring a couple of bottles of wine and make a small celebration of it. We agreed without hesitation.
The Night of Sharing My Wife With Another Man
Before we were set to meet our guy, my husband and I went out for drinks. We were both a little nervous – me more than him – and the alcohol helped calm me down and get me even a little turned on. My husband was joking around and making me excited, saying over and over how he couldn’t wait to see how the guy would take me. That helped a lot, knowing that my life partner was there for me during this whole process.
When we finally arrived at the hotel room, I was blown away by the guy. He was everything he seemed he was on Skype, and more. Tall, lean, charming, he already poured three glasses of wine for us. We talked, toasted to a great evening, and I was grateful there was definite chemistry between him and me. It was a huge weight lifted off my shoulders. I don’t know what I would’ve done if it turned out the guy wasn’t into me or if we somehow weren’t clicking.
It wasn’t long before the initial apprehension melted away. The wine (on top of the previous drinks) made me mellow, and I was getting giggly and touchy-feely with the guy. He didn’t mind one bit, and my husband was more than happy to let me crawl into the guy’s lap and finally kiss him.
This Was The Best Sex Of My Life
I won’t get into too much detail about what happened that night. It was one of the best sexual experiences I’ve ever had, and I feel selfish and want to hold onto some aspects of it just for myself.
However, I will say this: I have never in my life came so fast or so hard or even kept coming so many times in a row.
It wasn’t wild right from the start. The guy and I needed to feel each other out, explore each other’s bodies, see what worked and what didn’t. In our multiple chats, we discussed the general likes and dislikes, but this was the real deal. This was me looking into his eyes as I swallowed his dick. Him nibbling on my neck as he slipped his fingers inside me. It was hot and intense and every time I looked to the side, my husband was there, watching, already hard in his jeans. I was so wet for all of it.
The guy’s dick was indeed huge. Bigger than my husband’s. I was happy to have it in my mouth and more than happy to have it in my pussy. It was only a couple of minutes before I came the first time because I couldn’t take it anymore. I was mad with want.
We kept going for a long time. Hours. My husband took his dick out, masturbated beside us. He recorded some parts, encouraged me to moan louder, took pictures… God, it was a scene from a porn movie. But it was real and it was my life and I was absolutely drunk on it.
I probably had three or four orgasms in that one hookup, and it all finished when the guy shot his load all over my tits. We have pictures of that, too. It was an unforgettable ride.
What Did I Feel After?
We were so elated, high on the sex and the drinks we had earlier. Each one of us came (multiple times, in my case), and we were just so happy. I don’t think I’ve ever felt that euphoric.
We said goodbye to our guy and headed home, laughing and a little unsteady on our feet. It took us too long to reach our house because we couldn’t get a cab from how into each other we were. I couldn’t stop kissing my husband. I was spent and fucked out, but I wanted him, too. He was the one who made all of this happen, who was more than willing to take part in my fantasies, and I wanted to show him just how much I appreciated that. How much I loved him and wanted to have sex with him, too.
Over the next few days, we waited for that high to fade. And it did. It took a while, but eventually, we floated down from cloud nine.
Then we waited for the bad feelings to kick in. The guilt, the shame, anger, jealousy maybe… Tension or awkwardness. We talked about it before, and we were prepared to deal with the negative if it came to that. We knew it was a possibility.
Only that never happened. We waited and waited, constantly talked to each other, checked in with each other’s emotions… But we were fine. After I had sex with another man in front of my husband, we were both just… happy.
Not only that, but we were also really horny for each other. Our hookup infused energy into our sex life, something new and different than what we’ve had so far, and we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. I was kinkier than ever before, and my husband reveled in it.
Who would’ve thought that opening up our sex life to other people would make us even more turned on for each other?
I’ve Become Hooked On Being Shared (We’ve Tried It Again)
It didn’t take long before we were already talking about doing it again. We kept in touch with our guy, and he was more than willing to repeat the scene. He said he had a great time with both of us and that we should definitely contact him if we wanted more of that.
And we really, really did.
We also wanted to see if we could find some other guys. Branch out a little, try new things, new people.
Over the course of the next few months, we met two more potential candidates. We saw our first one again, and we quickly moved on to see these two new ones, as well. Thankfully, each time everything was more than satisfactory for everyone involved.
My husband doesn’t always just watch anymore. Sometimes he joins in, gets to fuck me in whatever hole is available. Sometimes he watches a little and then joins in. There are no rules to this, as long as no one is uncomfortable.
In the end, we have a few regular guys we see now. All of them are older than us because we’ve found that we react well to the confidence and experience older men bring to the table. Gets us hot all over.
What Does The Future Bring?
There are just so many things I want to try. I want to see if we can find two guys to fuck me at the same time while my husband watches. I want to meet couples who would have sex with us in the same room, perhaps even couples who would be open to wife-sharing.
I want to watch my husband have sex with another woman. I think I would get a huge kick out of seeing some hot thing ride his dick in front of me.
Unlike before, however, now I know all these things are possible. I still get nervous on occasion, but mostly I know it’s just a matter of time before we get to try all these things out. I’m no longer concerned or insecure, as this is easily the best thing I’ve ever done in my (sexual) life.
I can’t wait for what we decide to do next! I’m sure it’ll be one hot, wild ride.
Should You Share Your Wife?
This is the question, isn’t it? After all, is said and done, after you’ve read through my first wife-sharing experience, should you dare to try it?
My answer is: it depends.
Are you sure of your love for your wife and her love for you? Are you devoted and loyal to each other? Are you sure there won’t be any negative emotions resulting from this?
Are you prepared to be open and honest every step of the way? Communication is key. Without communication, none of this would have happened in the first place.
Remember that wife-sharing is not about cheating. It is the complete opposite, in fact. It is the act of introducing a third person to your sex life in order to enrich it and breathe more energy into it, and to make you and your partner all the more sure of your relationship.
Before you start looking for potential fuck buddies to help you in this, talk with your wife. Talk, talk, and then talk some more. Simulate the wife-sharing!
If she’s up for it, maybe you can even arrange a private show with a male cam model. She can masturbate along with him and you can watch off to the side to see whether or not there are any feelings you both need to address afterward.
However, if you’re still hard on the idea even with the knowledge about all the work that’ll take to make it happen – then go for it. I promise you won’t regret it.
Do you want to know more?
Comment below, and I’ll gladly talk about the other times I’ve been shared. Thanks!
I’m Brandon, I’m one of the main writers and owners of ewsingles (the other being my girlfriend (Willow). My girlfriend and I have an open relationship and share our passion for sex toys, sex and dating.