A spreader bar or a bondage bar, as it is sometimes called, is a bar used mostly in the BDSM sex community. It is a toy made with one purpose and that is to keep the legs or the arms of the tied person apart. Some spreader bars may have cuffs that are built-in while some have attachment points where you can use whatever bondage material you like. They can be made from wood, metal, or plastic bars or rods.
Bondage bars are designed in a way that creates complete sexual submission from the wearer. It spreads apart limbs without the possibility of closing and that leaves the path open for both physical and visual interaction. That can cause a feeling of vulnerability in both parties and that can be very erotic to some people.
The bars can be attached to wrists, ankles, arms or legs with cuffs or bondage rope you prefer giving you complete control over the sub’s movements. The best thing about spreader bars is that they are not tied to anything but the person so you can easily manipulate with their body however you feel like. No need to untie and tie again like some bed restraints.
This type of bondage in the form of bars has been with us for a long time and they are nothing new, but the popularity soared after it was seen in “Fifty Shades of Grey”. The sales of this sex toy went through the roof and soon, people realized that they are quite useful in their own way.
Spreader bars offer plenty of different sex positions, which you can experiment with once you get a little more familiar with them. They can even be used for suspension. But because spreader bars are a type of hard restraint, you must practice it with caution to ensure that no muscle strain or bruising happens to the wearer.
The Best BDSM Spreader Bar
This sportsheets expandable spreader bar and Cuffs combo will rock your world as it did with my sex life. Made from sturdy but lightweight metal, it forms a rigid restraint that can easily collapse into a small metal stick for you to carry wherever you want.
The cuffs are replaceable and you can take them off and put your favorite ones instead. This is a great kit for beginners as the bar can easily expand thanks to a spring-loaded pin mechanism and lines indicating where the best spots for cuffs or rope are. The size of the bar can be adjusted between 29.5 and 37.75inches and the size of the cuffs with Velcro closure adjust between 6.5 and 12.5 inches. The bar has quick-release clips in case you need to get out of them quick. I recommend this to beginners and intermediate users.
The First Few Times I Used This Spreader (Story)
I used this bondage bar for the first time with my boyfriend and we were both thrilled to try it. We went with our usual BDSM teasing play and then he started the dominating role and tied me up in this spreader.
First, we fucked doggy style for some time and I was screaming from pleasure because with every orgasm, I couldn’t close my legs and it was really intense. Then my boyfriend took me in my arms and into the living room. He bent me over our sofa and started pounding my pussy with brute force.
I orgasmed three times before he finally came on my pussy and the feeling was incredible. This spreader bar always has a special place in my closet.
I Love This Spreader (This Is Why)
The sheer vulnerability it provided is enough for me to fall in love with this thing. Even without sex, the moment I put it on, I was horny as never before and I could tell my boyfriend was quite into it also. He couldn’t keep his eyes off my pussy and couldn’t wait to stuff his cock inside me. We often use this spreader because of the erotic moments it provided.
Other Amazing Spreader Bars You Should Check Out
The one I talked about is my favorite, but there’s a few others that I also love and use regularly.
There’s also a few below that have some really special and unique features.
Leg Spreader Bar With Leather Cuffs
This expandable spreader bar with leather cuffs will heighten your roleplay in ways you can’t imagine. One of the best value-for-money deals you can get. The bar is fully adjustable between 18 and 26 inches and has 2 fixed durable leather cuffs, so you don’t have to worry about providing your own.
The length is easily adjusted using 2 removable metal pins. In this set, you will get 2 padlocks and 4 keys for strapping your partner in different ways.
This bondage bar also includes a padlock system that secures your bondage play. It can be split into 3 pieces for easy transportation. The fastening system is buckle and the cuffs are adjustable up to 180 degrees for minimal movement.
Bondage Boutique Extreme Spreader Bar
This is another great bondage bar from Bondage Boutique comes in this elegant leather design complete with 4 leather cuffs lined with faux fur and is perfect for binding your lover’s wrists and ankles. Test your partner’s flexibility by adjusting the length between 18 and 26 inches by using the removable metal pins.
The cuffs are also adjustable between 7.5 and 12 inches and make a perfect fit any time on anyone. The wrist cuffs are static, but the ankle ones can rotate 180 degrees and allow some movement without releasing the legs. There are 2 metal pins for securing the bar and 4 padlocks with 8 keys so you don’t have to worry about losing them.
Cushion With Cuffs (Amazing)
This liberator talea spreader bar cushion is so innovative I couldn’t believe it. You will achieve glorious sexual sensations with this multi-functional spreader bar cushion. First of all, the design and color are amazing, and one of the best I’ve seen. But the functionality holds its place also.
A sturdy foam core will easily support 2 bodies in every position you want and will not lose form. The Velcro-fastened wrist and ankle cuffs ensure a tight but comfortable fit for any limb you desire to bind. The cuffs can be easily taken off and replaced with your own because the bar is compatible with many standard types and allows for tailored play.
Arrives vacuum-packed and must be left to expand before use. The removable waterproof cover makes for easy cleaning and guarantees that no bodily fluids will get in the foam. Length is 30 inches and is not adjustable and the fabric used is Faux leather.
Purple Reins 20 Inch Spreader Bar
This elegantly beautiful Purple Reins spreader bar is something every girl should own.
It is very appealing to the eyes and does its job perfectly. It has two adjustable cuffs for either wrists or ankles and has an oversized O-ring at the center of the bar for adding extra restraints.
The cuffs size can be adjusted between 7.5 and 11 inches in circumference and will ensure a perfect tight fit. They are lined with foam and quite comfortable for prolonged wearing. This bondage bar is perfect for beginners as the bar is not adjustable and can be used as it is. It is latex-free, measures 20 inches in length, and the fabric used for making it is Nylon.
Adjustable Spreader Bar
Expose your partners every private part with this expandable bondage bar from Bondage Boutique. You can easily adjust the length of the bar between 23.5 and 35.5 inches by changing the position of the 2 removable pins.
The bar is simple to use with the pin system and when you are done, just pull out the pins and it can be broken down into 3 small-sized pieces that are perfect for transport or storage.
The metal O-rings on the side of the bar are compatible with cuffs that feature their own clip. Note that the cuffs are not included in this set and you will have to provide your own. Another thing is that you should check if your cuffs are compatible with this bar before purchasing.
Fetish Fantasy Spreader Kit
This is one of the best sets I have ever seen in terms of versatility and the different positions it can be used in. The fetish fantasy spreader bar and handcuff set is one of the kinkiest looking sets out there and will get your imagination going as soon as you see it. Essentially, there are 2 hollow metal bars of different lengths for your convenience.
There are no rules, but most people agree that the smaller one should be used for wrists while the longer one for ankles. The small bar features 10 inches in length with a central O-ring and 2 end rings.
The longer one also features a central O-ring and 2 end rings but is 24 inches in length and is perfect for binding the legs of your partner. The best thing is that you can use them separately or together for a plethora of different bondage positions and scenarios.
Four adjustable Neoprene cuffs with Velcro Fastening offer a comfortable but safe restraint and they are 360 degrees rotatable for your maximum enjoyment. The set also includes storage bad with padlock and keys, detachable collar and a blindfold.
Ankle Spreader Bar
Spread your lovers’ legs wide open with this bondage boutique spreader bar and she will be grateful. The ankle cuffs are lined with a soft faux fur and a Velcro fastening and they provide total comfort and adjustability.
With each cuff being adjustable between 6.5 and 13 inches, the fit will be perfect for any leg size. The bar is of fixed length and measures 20 inches and with the metal O-rings at the end provides an option to change the cuffs at your will. The signature Black Rose design is a tell-tell sign that this beauty belongs to the Black Rose Pleasure Collection and if you are a fan, you don’t want to miss out on this.
Thigh Spreader Bar
Who says you can only bind ankles and wrists? This thigh spreader bar shows you that there are multiple options when choosing a spreader bar and that thighs are not forgotten.
With its simple design and easy to use features, it is perfect for any beginner who wants to venture into the world of bondage and BDSM. This 12-inch thigh spreader bar has padded thigh cuffs with adjustable Velcro fastenings.
Cuffs can be adjusted between 13 and 20 inches and ensure the best fit for any thigh size. With its purple color and nylon fabric, it is a perfect bondage tool to have in your bedroom.
Is A DIY Spreader Bar Possible?
Being that a spreader bar is nothing complicated and consists of a rod and cuffs, they are pretty easy to make. Although you can never make a spreader bar like what you can find online and in the shops, you can still make a pretty decent one with a few things you can find around the house.
Forget the expanding mechanism and the smooth material that you can find in the specialized spreader bars and get ready for some rougher action.
Things you will need to do for a spreader bar:
- Find a wooden stick or a metal rod that is of acceptable length or cut it down if needed. Wooden sticks are better because you can use sandpaper to smoothen the rod and the edges for more comfortable usage. If you have the tools, you can do the same with a metal rod. There are no limitations except for what you have at home.
- Screw 2 eyelet hook on both sides or if you are using a metal rod, you will probably need to weld them on.
- Add your cuffs on the sides. In this step, I would advise that you not use DIY cuffs as that may lead to injury and/or restriction of blood flow, which you never want. Buy a set of cuffs online and just clip them on.
- You can paint or add some rope to the rod for a better look, but it is not important. It is all up to you and your imagination in this step.
How To Use A Spreader Bar
The spreader bar is one of my favorite BDSM toys because it is much more practical than your typical bed restraints. With bed restraints, if you want to change the position, you have to uncuff your sub and cuff them again, which can be tiresome and can take some time, which may result in loss of bedroom heat.
With spreader bars, there is no such inconvenience. When you strap on the cuffs, you are good to go in any position you want. Grab your lover and flip them any way you like without anything holding you in place. When you get tired of fucking on the bed, just pick her up and move around the house with ease. She won’t move a muscle.
Pick Your Sex Position
There are a few sex positions that are best for spreader bars, but that again depends on the wearer or the couple using it.
- Doggy – this is the most delicious and popular option as it allows full freedom for the pleasure giver and being bend up is one of the best positions in the form of comfort.
- Standing doggy – similar to a doggy style, only standing up. Bend her over a bed or a chair and watch her squirm from pleasure and not being able to close her legs.
- Missionary with legs up – talk about being open. This pose will give off the vibe of you not giving a fuck and letting everything go and the orgasms this position can give are some of the most intense you can have.
- You can also use furniture to further restraint your lover by tying them up to a chair or a pole and bending them over, however, you like and if you want to go above and beyond you can even get some furniture made especially for restraining your partner.
Buckle You Partner Up (How To Put On)
Putting on a spreader bar is one of the easiest things to do in BDSM. There is not much to it. Adjust the length of the bar how you feel comfortable, put the hands or ankles in the cuffs and you are ready to go.
The thing to keep in mind is that you should always be careful when exercising BDSM because it can lead to muscle strain or injuries. Always try to warm up and be realistic about your and your partners’ flexibility.
Let The Teasing Start
When you get into bondage sex, you will see that not everything is about penetration. Most of the participants have strong erotic feelings even before being penetrated in the form of humiliation or vulnerability and you should take advantage of that as much as you can.
The longer the tease the better the sex. Imagine you’re putting her body in a slow cooker, getting her the perfect temperature before you dig in. Don’t go ramming all at once and feel your partner throughout the session and the results will be the best.
Recommended sex toys:
You can always add in a few sex toys to your spreader bar action and it will bring new light to the show. Best sex toys for this sort of things are:
- Butt plugs
- Massage Vibrator
- Sex Machine
Don’t Forget to Spank
As it is a form of BDSM, you should not be afraid to do some spanking in the process. Most of the sub’s who like to be tied also like to be spanked. Communicate with your partner, though, as the intensity and frequency of spanking can differ from person to person.
If that is your thing and your partners, you can always use a flogger, crop or a paddle. If not, regular old hand-spanking will do the trick.
You can learn how to spank your partner to orgasm in this amazing spanking guide.
Time To Take Full Control
When your lover is all aroused and dripping wet, there is only one thing left. Get your hard dick in their pussy and watch them squirm from fantastic orgasms like never before. Grab the spreader bar and use it as reins to move your partner around however you feel like.
I’m Willow, I’m Brandon’s girlfriend and we run this blog together (with the help of some friends). We both have an open relationship and both love being kinky (I mean who doesn’t?). I love writing, music and my Womanizer. If you have any questions leave them in the comments.