Rope Bondage: A Guide Even Complete Beginners Will Understand

My boyfriend and I got into BDSM by accident a few years back. We were fooling around in bed when he tied me up with a t-shirt that I’ve previously taken off. It was spontaneous and a bit awkward at first, but since I trusted him, I decided to go with the flow.

As soon as he put my tied up hands above my head, I knew that he had opened a whole new world of possibilities. 

Being inexperienced as we were, that was the only thing we did that day, but we were eager to know more. Since it was a couple of years back, we couldn’t find any good beginner guides to BDSM and we had to learn by practicing on each other.

That is why I’ve come up with this beginner-friendly guide that will tell you all you need to know for your first BDSM experience. Whether you are a beginner or a BDSM veteran, I think you will find something for yourself in this complete guide for starting your own BDSM adventures.-

Why rope is used during BDSM

different types of knot you can do with rope

Using rope during sex is a form of dominance. If you are the dominant one in a relationship, you will enjoy tying up your partner and doing with them as you please. If you are, by chance, on the other side of the spectrum, the feeling of restraint and loss of control will take you to new heights in pleasure.

I say spectrum because there are people who enjoy it both ways or don’t enjoy it at all. BDSM as we know it today, derived from the Japanese bondage art form of shibari. The western approach is more about restraining, but the Japanese focus more on the artistic side of the process.

Things you should know before getting started

The price – let’s face it, this has crossed every mind that wanted to get into bondage. Is it expensive? Well, it is and it isn’t. If you go to a verified sex shop you could end up spending much more than you need to. Usually, a good hardware store has the things you need for a starting kit. 

The diameter – the diameter of the rope is very important. You do not want a small diameter rope, as it can lead to injuries such as skin burns, circulation problems, bruises or even scars. By small diameter, I mean anything below 5mm.

The braiding – braiding affects how tight or loose your knots get, and how difficult it will be to get them untied. It is not imperative since you can always cut the rope, but that can lead to more expenses – the remains might not be long enough for further use.

The tooth – the tooth of a rope refers to its friction, and therefore affects how well your knots will hold. 

Cutting – don’t be afraid to cut your rope into smaller pieces. Usually, you will find long sets of ropes so you will have to cut them up to fill your needs.

Maintenance – every tool needs to be maintained and ropes are no exception. Try to wash it when necessary and keep it in a bag or case so it won’t get damaged. Trim loose fibers and break the rope down in the water before using it if it gets too stiff. 

Fixing loose ends – try to use up all the rope when tying and if u can’t, just tuck it under another line of rope. This will prevent loose ends and make it more appealing to the eyes.

⦁  Try to relax – there is no right or wrong when doing BDSM. Don’t be afraid to experiment with your partner and find out what works best for you. Just keep an eye out for safety measures, which I will discuss later in this thread.

Types of bondage rope

different types of rope that works for bondage

There are many types of bondage ropes, but mostly they are separated into two categories – Natural and Synthetic. Both sorts have their advantages and drawbacks and it all comes down to your personal preference. 

Natural types of ropes

HEMP – hemp is commonly used for Shibari and it is very traditional. It has a natural look, fantastic tooth, a variety of diameter ranges and lots of colors. It isn’t stretchy as some other types. Drawbacks are that washing it affects the durability, it will shed fibers and could cause allergic reactions. Hemp also needs a lot of work to break in, as it can be quite stiff before first use and is expensive both raw and treated.

JUTE – jute, like hemp, is also traditional and usually used for Shibari. It is more expensive though, washing or boiling it degrades fibers, and needs more time to break in. Jute is a bit slower to tie with because of the tooth and needs care and inspection. The upside of jute is that quality improves with every use, it has a natural smell, can be dyed in any color, and is easy to unknot.

COTTON – Cotton is a great material for ropes. It is strong but soft on the skin, has acceptable tooth and slight elasticity, which can have benefits. Cotton ropes are lightweight, leave no allergic reactions and almost no rope burns. It can be dyed in different colors. The downsides of cotton ropes are that they are easy to get dirty, can stretch over time and need working in after washing. Also, knots get very tight, so I would not recommend it to beginners. 

SILK – Silk is similar to cotton in some ways, but better. It’s flexible and soft with moderate friction. Has a low stretch, okay durability and good tooth despite being soft. But, as you may have guessed, it is quite expensive.

LINEN/FLAX – linen rope is expensive and harder to clean, but that are pretty much the only cons. On the other side, it has a good tooth (which makes it easier to tie), good strength, flexibility, and moderate durability. It doesn’t need to be worked in before use, has no allergy problems, but be careful as it still can leave some marks.

BAMBOO – like silk, it is in the luxury range of ropes, so it can cost a bit more money, but it is definitely worth it. Flexible and soft with low stretch and moderate friction, the bamboo rope is one of the finest you can use. It has okay durability, less grip than silk and anti-bacterial properties. 

MANILA, SISAL, COIR – last of the natural kind, and in my opinion the least. They are quite uncomfortable, less stable, and don’t have enough strength for suspension. Not easy to clean, with limited diameters. Pros are that it is cheaper than bamboo and silk ones, leaves better “rope marks” and has a harsh tooth which can be good or bad depending on your preferences.

Synthetic types of ropes

NYLON, PARACORD, POLYESTER – mostly referred to as nylon rope, it is smooth and soft, easy to find and clean, great durability with no allergies. Cons of this kind of rope are that it is slippery, has a bad tooth, knots are pretty compact and rope burns are much more prominent. It is a non-traditional type of rope. 

SYNTHETIC HEMP – synthetic hemp is similar to natural, as it sheds and doesn’t have color options. Not many diameters either, but it is cheaper and easier to keep clean. Other pros are that it has a good tooth, knots don’t get very compact, supports suspension and since it’s synthetic leaves no allergies. 

MFP Multifilament Polypropylene – advantages of this kind of rope include: low friction, decent strength, softness and smoothness, easy to find, no allergies and lots of colors. Drawbacks are not so good tooth, no suitable for suspension and more rope burns.

What kind of rope is my favorite

bondage rope

After trying various types, I have to say that this bondage rope is my all-time favorite. It’s ideal for the sensational feel of rope against my skin. The bondage rope is 10 meters long and allows for a wide variety of knots and positions. I would recommend it to beginners and experts alike. You can check it out at this link.

The first time I tried using rope in BDSM

My first time using rope in BDSM was shortly after the t-shirt “accident”. My boyfriend and I started going around the shops and asking all sorts of questions, to get more information on what we need and want.

We stumbled upon a hardware shop and went in. There was a wall full of different kinds of ropes and we started feeling and stretching one after another. When we settled for the one that was right for us we hurried back home.

It was a Saturday so we had all the time we wanted to experiment and try different things. After the t-shirt, the rope felt kinda weird on my skin at the start, but as my boyfriend continued to make loops and ties all over my body, I started to relax and enjoy.

After hours and hours of experimenting, I was aroused to the point of bursting. Every touch on my skin I felt with such intensity that I could orgasm at any moment. And I did. That was the first time I used a rope in BDSM, and I am hooked ever since.

The other bondage rope I love using

Even though Bondage Boutique Soft Bondage Rope is my favorite, there are plenty that are pretty equal and comparable with that one. I will list a few in case you need some directions.

Fifty Shades Of Grey Rope (Twin Set)

fifty shades of grey rope

“I’d be more than happy to demonstrate what I can do with a rope.” ahh, the famous line in the movie from which this twin set of ropes comes. These particular ropes are made from triple-twisted silk and feature no elasticity, making it excellent for strong and safe restraint.

Coming in with two colors (red and black) and 2×5 meter silky, strong bondage, they guarantee progress in the seasoned bondage players BDSM fantasies. They are suitable for wrist and ankle restraint or fore more complicated full-body bondage and can be used by beginners or experts alike.

Silk Bondage Rope

silk bondage rope

Fifty Shades Freed Want to Play? This silky rope is what every kinky girl needs in her arsenal. Like the one before, this one is also made from the triple-twisted finish of silky goodness. All you have to do is unwind it and it is ready to be used in any way you wish and on anyone you desire.

This extra-long exquisite piece of rope is excellent for artistic designs and full-body bondage. The soft and shiny finish feels great on your skin and looks even better with rose-gold metal tips at the ends. Perfect for beginners or advanced users.

Japanese Style Rope

japanese bondage rope

Doc Johnson Japanese-style bondage rope is a bit cheaper than previous ones, but don’t let that distract you from the truth – it is as good as they get in the cotton department.

With 10 meters in length and fabric that is woven to lay flat against the skin, it is perfect for elaborate knots and various BDSM positions.

The soft finish makes it delicate for your skin and has almost no rope burn. You can use to tie wrists and ankles or make a beautiful body harness for your significant other, just make sure you have scissors near you if the knots get a bit tight. It is machine washable and usable for countless times. Give it a go!

Guide to bondage knots (How to)

different types of bondage rope tying techniques

There is not much I can write that will make you understand the intricacies involved in BDSM bondage without getting complicated. Luckily, we have lots of videos with tutorials for beginners and advanced users. 

Beginners guide to bondage knots

Here are some of the best video tutorials about different ways you can use bondage rope.

The Beginner Basic Knots & Restraints:

This is a basic show and tell tutorial about lots of different toys you can use. It is presented by a cute BDSM couple.

The Basic Arm Restraint Guide:

This guy is a bit awkward but knows his stuff. He is mostly showing full-body bondage but will explain any knot you want, just leave it as a comment. This is also some of his work

Basic Rope Handcuffs

This is one of my favorite guides, it’s so simple and so effective, it also feels amazing if you use silky rope.

Advanced guide to bondage knots

Once the above is complete you can move on to the more advanced bondage rope tutorials.

It takes a while to master the below, so go easy and remember that practice makes perfect.

The hip holster

This is amazing if you enjoy being suspended, it’s also amazing if you enjoy giving your partner full control of your cock/pussy.

Mix this with a good hand restraint and a magic wand and you have some of the best sex of your life.

The Hishi back web

This Hishi is such a seductive, beautiful restraint, once it’s masted it feels like bliss, the control you give up to your partner and the feeling of the rope against the skin is bliss.

Broad Hishi box tie

Presented by the same guy from one of the previous vids, these are still pretty vanilla in my opinion but as youtube policy dictates, there can be no wild content. Feel free to investigate on your own.

Extra Ideas to make your rope play more intense

different ways you can use bondage rope shown in the form of cartoons

This is a must-read, the above is all about techniques, this part is just about fun.

It’s how I took my rope skills to the next level of pleasure.

Restraint To Items (Chair, Bed, etc)

try to mix things up by restraining your partner to a chair, bed, a sturdy pole or anything that catches your attention and has the ability to hold a rope. But keep in mind that safety is first.

The suspension (Use to hold legs, body, arms up in the air)

for this you will need some extra equipment (hooks, or poles with rings hanging from the ceiling) but it can be a lot of fun when done properly. Not everything has to be played out in bed.

Use it to make a magic wand belt (holds sex toy in place while partner is restrained)

magic wand vibrator

you can use a rope with this Magic Wand Vibrator and have lots of fun! Tie a knot around yourself in the form of a harness and slip this bad boy in for a mindblowing sexual experience. How to tie a harness from a rope is shown in one of the videos below.

Try using to make an orgasm chair

this guide will show you how to tie your Magic Wand to a chair for an amazing hands-free orgasming chair that you never knew you needed.

You could also pair the rope with one of these sex machines and give your partner some deep, slow thrust action.

Try making a strap-on using just rope

this guide will explain how to make a strap on from rope and fit your incredible Magic Wand and see how men feel when flaring their cocks around.

Safety measures

As a beginner in BDSM, you need to know the basic safety measures. Doing BDSM is not a thing to be taken lightly and is best done with a long term partner or a person you have trust in.

Try not to put too much pressure on the skin, and make sure you have room for at least two fingers between the rope and the skin. Always keep scissors or a knife close in case you need to quickly cut a badly made knot or loop. Safewords are also important and make sure you set them before starting your adventure.

I hope this article helped you decide on what you want from your BDSM experience. Have fun and don’t be afraid to explore!

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