The Best Cock Cage & Male Chastity Devices

I am very grateful for the chance to take over the blog for a bit. Because speaking about BDSM to wider audiences always helps me demystify the subject to you “normies”. I am a friend of the wonderful crazy pair that runs this blog and I engage in BDSM play with my hubby.

We don’t need to play out our dominatrix-slave dynamic all the time, but a lot of our “alone” activities revolve around BDSM, teasing and humiliation. One of our fave pastimes are male chastity games, so here is a taste of our everyday life and a guide to my favorite cock cages and other similar fun toys.

I am the dominant (dom), he is the submissive (sub) and this is a slice of cake that is our kinky sex life.

What Is Male Chastity?

what is chastity

To be able to venture any further in this story, I will give a brief definition of male chastity and explain below some of the aspects of the whole ordeal. Male chastity refers to using a device that will prevent a man to have sex, masturbate, have orgasms, and achieve full erections.

What Is A Cock Cage?

cock cage locked up in chastity

 A cock cage is a specially designed device in which you lock your penis. That consequently means you can’t fuck or jerk off. Cock cages sometimes give the feeling of a growing erection as an uncomfortable and impossible one. Moreover, wearers of cock cages usually have dedicated “keyholders”, as in people who control your ability to perform sexual acts and achieve sexual gratification. Hell, even your ability to pee standing up. The cock cage makes you sit down on the toilet and in that process makes you let go of the typical masculine moment of dominance usually had due to the upright position of peeing that women are robbed of. All in all, you can see why cock cages found their position in BDSM philosophy and why they found their use as a BDSM sex toy.

What is a Ball Divider?

what is a ball divider

Ball dividers are used to, well, separate balls, duh. This constricts the flow of blood to the rest of the genitals and brings you enhanced stimulation and sensations as it keeps the testicles in place.

Finding a chastity keyholder

chastity keyholder

While some men use the cock cages themselves and act as their own chastity keyholders, most guys into these kinds of toys are vying to find a chastity keyholder. Someone to take over control of your cock and do with it as they please. How to do this?

First, be sure of what you want and how far you’re willing to go. Some guys go to bigger extremes than others, for example when it comes to the time frame in which they wear their cock cage. While some guys can go for extended periods like this, others want to be let free so they can pee, etc. Moving on, you should set some rules with your keyholder – will you have a reward system, especially if you want to have some free time from occasionally? Are you trying to have a casual relationship with your keyholder or to be ordered around with cleaning, cooking, etc? Do you aim to have sex afterward or is your keyholder someone who is here purely to let you out of the cage and let you take care of your own business?

What I am trying to say is that you both need to be very true with yourself and with the other person about what you want and how far you are willing to go. Don’t lie to yourself because the truth will eventually show in your limits.

The best way to find your keyholder is through the never-ending landscape of the internet. When visiting websites dedicated to the dynamics of BDSM relationships, forums and meeting sites, arm yourself with patience. The first person you bump into there doesn’t have to be a good fit. What good is meeting someone who is just interested in holding the key and nothing else?

Be patient and who knows what could happen. I met my husband through a similar website. So contrary to popular taboo opinions, BDSM dynamics is not a sleazy area of sexual encounters that don’t have a basis in real life.

Male chastity health concerns:

Well, there aren’t studies on the subject. Some guys claim to wear them for months, while one urologist stated that he believes not more than 4 or 6 hours should be the time frame if the cock cage is pretty compressive, as not to damage the erectile function of the penis. If you buy more expensive ones, they might be safer for longer use. But overnight wear can be a problem in this scenario, too, because erections that happen when you sleep are thought to be useful for encouraging blood flow and stretching out erectile tissue to prevent atrophy. So it comes down to the type of your sex toy, your wishes, how much money can you invest in a plaything like this, etc.

To avoid blisters and pinches that can cause discomfort, carefully research your future sex toy, be sure the reviews are favorable and that the size is right. To be honest, this was something I selected with my slave hubby because as much as I want him to suffer pleasurable sensations, I also want to be practical and realistic!

The Best Cock Cage Every Male Chastity Lover Needs

chastity cock cage

This is one of the most famous cock cages at the moment out there. This cock cage is a great quality product and I like that the makers went back and redid the previous version that was generally a bit too big. I like my hubby to experience restriction, so I welcomed this wholeheartedly.

I love that it is so customizable, so it ensures a snug fit. It is made from polycarbonate plastic, so it is durable and has longevity, meaning my husband can wear it for a longer time!

The hole provided can not only let my man pee but sometimes even to cum. So I use this when I am feeling a bit more generous.

We went through a few cock cages before trying this one out. It was a hit and miss process. And that’s normal, don’t fret about it. In the end, we realized we should just listen to the reviews and go for the best-rated toy, even if it’s on the pricier side. If he is going to be wearing it for a longer time, best make sure that it’s doable with the toy you bought!

The first time I put this on my obedient slave, I made him a list of chores, or challenges, if you will. It started out with things around the house and it went on for 72 hours.

He would go around, tending to my needs, calling me his Goddess. When it was time to pee, he had to do so sitting down, as to be sure there won’t be any mess.

His cock was my property and his attempted hard-ons were proof he was loving it. And every time I noticed him twitching, it was time for punishment. He would hang his head low in obedience while I smacked his ass with a riding crop.

Punishment was served also in situations when my obedient hubby fumbled with a task. I would swing the key of the lock-in front of him, teasing as I put it back around my neck, as it hung from it and got lost into the depths of my supple breasts.

I was giving him a taste of heaven and hell. His reward in the end? A long-awaited orgasm, where he jerked off while watching me get fucked by one of my many lovers. 

What I love about this sex toy:

  • Safety and “comfort” first! The holes do their job in ensuring this.
  • It is discrete and without a belt.
  • It is quite customizable with cock rings in 5 sizes, 4 locking pins, 4 spacers, 1 brass padlock, and keys, as well as 5 locks that are plastic and numbered individually.

My Other Chastity Cages, Dividers & Belts

I got a whole range of naughty sex toys for my sissy husband. Making him use them with stockings and silk panties pleasures me in ways I won’t admit to him but will watch him squirm in satisfaction and pain.

Cheaper cock cage (That’s Still Amazing)

metal cock cage

Not only is this DOMINIX cock cage ultra-affordable when compared to male chastity toys in general, but it’s also a great option if you lean towards the spirally, metallic look of your toys. As it says in the description, it really does “sandwich the sausage”!

I like that I can see my husband’s flesh even clearer with this toy, watching his cock twitch pathetically as he tries desperately to hide his wrongdoing. Moreover, I can even tease him with feathery toys as he shivers all over, knowing he’d be rock hard without the cage. No, this way, he only gets a spanking when I see his dick twitch as I tease him.

Since this looks amazing on my partner, I sometimes ambush him with messages during the day. Maybe he is at work or running errands or in a queue at the post office. I send him that I want a dick pic and I give him 10 minutes. Thinking how he must be scrambling in worry to find a place to send me a picture makes me wet immediately. Once, the poor sack sent me a picture literally from a secluded part of the park next to our neighborhood supermarket! Imagining how humiliated he must’ve been to creep pants-down in a park during daylight still makes me horny and makes me laugh!

Bigger Cock Cage

metal cock cage being used on dildo

The Prisoner Cock Cage! Oooh, such an inviting name. My pathetic hubby doesn’t listen to me enough, but at least he has a big dick, so that’s his plus. And this cock cage fits him nicely. The bars go down the length of the penis, so that looks different enough to be interesting for any of you to check out.

The cold stainless steel sex toy is also a bargain in the sphere of sex toys. From a practical point of view, it’s curved and ventilated for maximum comfort and restriction. Of course, it is, like most cock cages, adjustable, belt-wise and cage-wise.

The Best Ball Divider

ball divider on dildo

I love this harness for the pathetic sack’s little pathetic sack. This Cock Ring with Ball Divider is one of my favorites because fake leather continues to push all my right buttons. And watching his suffocating balls in this fun toy… pure heaven for me and hell for my husband.

Of course, this is also an adjustable plaything. The main ring is all snug around my man’s cock, while the ball splitter does its job in restricting him and stiffening his erection. He gets ultra-sensitive, so I tease him by running my long nails up and down his shaft. If I please, I will even go down on him, just by biting him slowly. One time, after a week of wearing the splitter, I did this biting trick, long nails and all. He actually had a premature ejaculation, that sissy slut. I never spanked him that hard.

Ball Stretcher I Recommend

ball stretcher

We are not that much into tugging, but when it comes to this type of toy, I have found this ball stretcher suits my needs the best. Tugging his balls while passing by my hubby while he’s forced to walk stark naked around the flat is a dear pastime of mine.

It stretches easily to suit his ballsack and he says it really does make his orgasms more memorable and stronger. I cannot vouch for that, but I have to say that it does prolong his bedroom stamina.

How To Use A Cock Cage & Male Chastity

how to put on a cock cage

How to put on a cock cage/ball divider

It all depends on the maker and model, so in any case, follow the instructions carefully and do use lube in some cases, you can’t go wrong with that. Ensure that the fit is comfortable because if your slave is going to be wearing it for some time, it is no use having him hurt when he walks, sleeps or goes around his day. That is NOT the point of BDSM.

How to stay safe while using a cock cage/ball divider

Guys, take care of your hygiene! This is super-important – clean with great detail using a Q-tip and alcohol and rinse your cock in the shower. Use an anti-disinfection solution afterward, too.

During each adjustment, see that you are comfortable enough and snuggly fit that you can bear the ordeal.

Chastity Fantasy Ideas

chastity fantasy ideas

Take it slow if you’re new to the world of BDSM or chastity play. Find out the part of chastity that excites you and try it. Here are some suggestions:

Small penis

For some BDSM relationships, the goal is to go smaller and smaller with each cock cage. So the twist is to find ways to keep denying him not just orgasms but also effectively getting rid of hard-ons and partial hard-ons. Because, the truth is that even average penises can be snuggly put in a small cock cage when flaccid. So there are no excuses. The goal is zero room for any growth.

Cuckold

This is definitely a common fantasy and my husband and I actively live it. So not only am I denying him sex and orgasms… I make him watch me give them to another guy! He loves the humiliation of his tiny flaccid cock locked in a cage, while I am riding a fat hard rod.

Sex Slave

A common trope in BDSM relationships, thus in our’s, too. My husband is to follow my whims and complete the tasks I give him. Buying me stuff, cooking, running errands, you name it. I even select most of his outfits. He sees me as his Goddess and I see him as my slave. I remind him constantly of this fact. Sometimes with words, sometimes with cages, sometimes with spanks, sometimes with teasing. But even slaves get orgasms… if they’re good enough.

BDSM After Care

Doms and subs both need TLC after sessions, whether they last an hour or a month.

Mental and emotional scars can be left if not cared for afterward. Because, the adrenaline and endorphins rush eventually leads to a crash if you’re not careful. You gotta pick each other up.

Care for each other when you feel weak, fatigued or dazed. Cuddle, kiss, take a bath together. Or, give each other a bath. Do what suits and mends you both. Don’t forget words. Calming, healing, especially if you love one another. Because, words are remedy.

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