Let’s be real: any guy would kill to have a big dick. It doesn’t matter if he has an average one or a small one – a big dick is what pretty much any male you run into secretly craves. It’s a large boost to the ego to know that your dick is bigger than most others and it weirdly makes you feel like you’re more of a man. Somehow, you’re worth more and you’re a lot more masculine if you have a big cock.
I know, it’s stupid. But that’s how the male brain works.
The truth is, however, a big dick comes with problems of its own. While others may fantasize about their member being a couple of inches longer or thicker, those who actually have a big dick – like me – know that it’s not all sunshine and rainbows.
I’ve been invited to write about my experiences of having a large cock. I’m going to talk about the good, but I’m also going to talk about the bad because that needs to be addressed as well.
So, first things first, let’s talk measurements.
How Big Is A Big Dick?
In my research for this post, I’ve come across various numbers that relate to a big dick. What most studies come down to is this:
An average dick is anywhere between 3.9 inches (10 cm) and 6.2 inches (16 cm) when erect. Anything below that is a small dick and anything above that is a large dick. According to one study, only 5% of the male population has a dick that is longer than 6.2 inches (again, when erect).
Girth should also be taken into account, although I always assume that a long dick is also sufficiently thick. However, given that the circumference of an average penis is 4.5 – 4.8 inches, anything more than that is considered a fat cock.
How Big Is My Dick?
My dick, in particular, is just over 8 inches in length when I’m hard. That is definitely more than the top average limit of 6.2 inches I talked about above. My erection has been 8 inches long ever since I stopped growing in my late adolescence.
What It’s Like Having A Large Dick (Is It All Good?)
I’m not going to lie, I take pride in having a large dick. The fact that it is big has nothing to do with me – as in, I didn’t influence it to be that in any way – but rather with my genetics, and yet I’m still very proud of that. It’s not the cornerstone of my confidence, but it is extremely beneficial to know that you are moving through the world with a massive cock in your pants; to know that most other men can’t even compare.
When it comes to my sex life, it’s a slightly different story. You would assume that ladies fall over themselves to have sex with me and to ‘get wrecked’ by my cock, but that simply isn’t the case. In fact, I feel like I have more trouble satisfying my partners than a guy with an average penis. I’ll get into my big dick problems in just a bit.
Overall, I’d say that being well-endowed is both a blessing and a curse.
The Truth Is Women Have No Idea About Cock Size
I think every guy has told his partner that he has an 8-inch cock.
Women would tell me how 8 inches is small and that they had been with loads of guys with 7 – 8-inch dicks. Then they see mine and get scared of how big it is and think it is 11 inches.
So women don’t really know much if you tell them the exact measurements. However, they know a big dick when they see it, there’s no doubt about that. I’ve taken to warning my partners about my size in advance, but they still get shocked when I take my pants off for the first time. I actually thrive on those types of reactions.
The Main Big Dick Problems I Have
As I mentioned, having a big dick is not the perfect experience you may imagine it is. I’ve had quite a few problems in the bedroom that other men haven’t, and here I’m going to list the most common ones. Until you find the right partner – one who is enthusiastic about your size rather than intimidated by it – it can be difficult to satisfy the person you’re with.
Condoms Are Harder to Find
Not many condom brands make XL (or XXL) condoms. Not many good ones, anyway. I’ve struggled to find the right size for me because the regular ones are way too tight. If you wear a condom that is too small, it can kill your erection in a blink of an eye. Not to mention that you’re risking losing sensation in your penis if you wear a tight condom for an extended period.
How To Fix?
Fortunately, this is an easy solution: buy large condoms in bulk.
I’ll be forever grateful to Trojan for their Magnum condoms because I have no idea what my sex life would be like without them or if it would even exist. These are a perfect fit and are comfortable both for my partner and me. They’re lubricated and should be all you need for awesome vaginal sex. (Anal sex, obviously, will require additional lube.)
No-Go Sex Positions
Simply put, if you have a big dick, you can’t indulge in absolutely all sex positions. This depends on the woman, but some I’ve been with find certain sex positions painful. Deep penetration is a no-go, and I often need to temper my thrusts and make them shallow as well.
How To Fix?
Focus on the foreplay. I can’t stress this enough. Take your time and don’t shove your whole cock inside at once. Make her nice and wet with your fingers or your mouth first, perhaps even play with her using a toy. Once you finally want to slide it in, go slow and bit by bit. Let her adjust to the size. Don’t forget to kiss her and touch her and talk dirty (if she likes that) to make her feel relaxed and eager (and maybe a little desperate) at all times.
Learn the sex positions that create more room:
- Face-to-face spooning
- Your partner sitting in your lap, facing you
- From behind, but with your partner lying down on her stomach and her legs together
Hitting The Cervix
Hitting the cervix during sex can hurt a woman really bad and most do not find it fun in the slightest. If you’re with a woman who is a size queen, you’ll find that she might have a little more space down there and can accommodate your length.
However, if you’re with a woman who has never had a big dick or doesn’t like big pleasure, it can be really hard to have sex with her. At least while using your whole cock; you can always not go in all the way when you’re thrusting, which isn’t ideal.
How To Fix?
There aren’t too many innovative ideas here. The same applies as before: make her really wet and give her an orgasm before sex. Don’t forget to warm up the inside of her vagina with your fingers or a dildo or vibrator beforehand. Keep her really horny and wanting it. Try to minimize her anxiety or worries regarding your massive cock.
Additionally, try to find women who don’t have a low cervix. Some women are just physically incompatible with big dicks and there’s nothing much you can do there, unfortunately.
No Quick Sex (Less Frequent Sex)
You’d be surprised to hear this, but I have sex less often than a lot of my male friends, even though I have a girlfriend who loves big pleasure. This is because, even when we use loads of lube, I can still cause her discomfort.
You also can’t just have sex with zero prep time. Quickies are out of the picture, I’m afraid. Sometimes they work if my girlfriend is really, really wet and horny (like if she watched a good porn clip or read an erotic story and got herself all worked up) but most of the time, sex without any foreplay just hurts her.
How To Fix?
The same formula as before: my girlfriend usually needs to have an orgasm or at least be warmed up before we have sex.
To achieve this, we use magic wands and smaller dildos, and I go down on her and use my fingers to get her ready for me.
Also, having more frequent sex can get her adjusted to the size faster and help her loosen up quicker when you start going at it.
Causing My Partners Pain After Sex
This is yet another unfavorable outcome. If you’re her first big cock, then she’ll often feel pain after having sex with you, even if she didn’t feel pain during it. Even with plenty of lube, you could still cause slight tearing or bruising inside her vagina and this could cause some discomfort in the following days. Some women love this feeling, but most aren’t very appreciative.
I’ve been with a lot of women that, because of this, would only have sex with me a couple of times per week, even if we were super horny. They didn’t like the idea of hurting afterward and honestly, I couldn’t blame them.
How To Fix?
Having more sex sometimes works.
Plenty of women I’ve been with would start like this, but then we’d have a few weeks of constant sex (with lots of foreplay and warm-up, of course). Over time, this pain/ache after sex would subside and, before I knew it, we could have sex daily without causing her any pain.
Again, this doesn’t always work. It all depends on the girl you’re with and her anatomy.
Some Women Are Not Compatible With Big Dicks
It happened once or twice that I fell for a couple of amazing women. They worked for me on every level and we’ve fallen in love and then my dick ruined it. If a woman can’t take my dick and doesn’t feel pleasure during sex, there’s nothing I can do to solve the problem. If all of your ideas and techniques don’t work, then you just have to move on and hopefully, stay friends with the girl.
That’s sad and I feel like I’ve missed out on some great relationships just because my dick wasn’t compatible with my partners, but… It is what it is.
How To Fix?
Keep searching for the right partner! It takes time and effort, but it’s so worth it. Once you find a girl who likes you and likes your dick, it’s a whole new world of pleasure. You won’t regret it.
I Don’t Fit In Most Sex Toys
This may not be a concern for you in general, but the few times I wanted to try some fun toys with my girlfriends, I’ve realized that they don’t fit around my dick. This is why we can’t use a vibrating cock ring, a rabbit vibrator that straps onto the dick while we’re having sex, and more.
Moreover, I also don’t fit in most masturbating toys. Fleshlights, sex dolls, masturbating sleeves, even male vibrators… Most of those are too small for me. For the longest time, I’ve had only my hand and lube to satisfy my urges. It’s not the end of the world, of course, but on occasion, I also want to try something new and different and kinky. And it makes me frustrated when I can’t give my partner everything she wants in bed.
Sometimes Blowjobs Suck And Not Literally
Sometimes women can’t get their mouth properly around or down my cock. It’s pretty thick and obviously quite long, so I’ve never had the pleasure of experiencing deep-throating. Some women don’t even want to come near my dick with their mouths for fear of hurting themselves or disappointing me.
All of this makes me not enjoy blowjobs as much. I honestly envy the guys who get them regularly and whose girls can take them all the way in. I would love to know what that feels like.
How to fix?
One time I’ve been with a particularly gifted woman who could still make my dick disappear. I don’t think it was the same feeling as a regular blowjob, but she certainly did her best. We didn’t work out in the long run, but there is hope that you might find a special lady like this someday.
The Good Side Of Having A Huge Cock
Of course, it wouldn’t be fair to say that having a big dick only has negative sides to it. Here are just some of the amazing benefits of being hung:
When You Find The One <3
It takes a while before you find the right woman for you. I used to get a lot of rejection, but when you find a woman who truly loves big pleasure, then the sex is unreal. The orgasms you will give her are going to be unmatchable. It’s safe to say that you’ll ruin every other guy who comes after you for her. (If you don’t stay with her, that is.)
I’ve had women squirting over my cock and shaking from just slowly thrusting in and out. As far as I can tell from talking to a few of my normal-sized friends, that isn’t the case for them. So enjoy watching as girls come apart on your cock. There’s nothing like it.
It Looks Amazing
When you take your clothes off, you can be as sure of yourself as you want to be. It doesn’t matter what body type you have or even if you’re fully erect – a huge dick looks amazing on any form. You will take anyone’s breath away, be they male or female. It’s a special treat when I’m in the male locker rooms and I know my dick intimidates most of the other guys there. Which brings me to my next point.
One Less Thing To Worry About
I’ve heard how many guys stress over the size of their dick. They worry it isn’t enough, that they can’t please their partners, they feel insecure over it. Compared to that, I know my cock is big and thus, I have nothing to worry about. I have literally never spent a moment in my life, wondering how my dick measures up to others. Even if there are guys with a bigger dick than me, they’re few and far between.
Women Like To Take Pictures Of My Cock
This was a totally unexpected side-effect of having a big dick. The first time my partner wanted to take a picture of my dick, I was taken aback. But then I realized that she wants it commemorated even if we don’t work out as a couple, and I couldn’t help but preen at the thought.
You Become A Kink/Fetish
Size queens are those who prefer to have sex with men with huge dicks. Being the object of a kink can be good, but it can also be annoying if you’re looking for a deeper connection than just kinky sex. Overall, I don’t mind it so much, and it makes it easier to find a partner if you’re looking for something casual.
Gray Sweatpants And Athletic Shorts
If you want a lot of female attention, all you need to do is wear the stereotypical gray sweatpants or athletic shorts. My cock looks awesome in them and it gets me a lot of stares and even compliments from the bolder passersby. Just think of Jon Hamm (the actor) and his by-now infamous gray sweatpants pictures.
My Past Girlfriends All Tell Their Friends About It
It’s not easy when a relationship ends, whatever the reason for the break-up is. However, an undeniable advantage here is that my ex-girlfriends like to share their sexual experiences with their close friends. As a result, a lot of women out there know that I have a big dick. It’s a flattering thought.
The Truth About It
The truth is that some women love a big cock, some hate it.
Some women want every inch of you and want you to pound away, others put their hand out and are in pain after you’ve barely slid your tip inside.
You need to find someone compatible with you and your cock regardless of if you have a big, above-average, average or small cock.
It can be a good or a bad thing, but it will be a lot better if you learn to use it and listen to the woman you’re with.
How To Experience What It’s Like To Have A Large Dick
If you’re curious about what it feels like to have a big dick, there are ways you can simulate the experience. With the help of toys, you can show your partner what having a big member is like and both of you can have a mind-blowing experience. Here are some great options to use for that:
This is the best penis sleeve around. They add an extra 3 inches and a lot of extra thickness and still feels just like the real thing. It’s great for experiencing what it’s like having a big cock and seeing if your partner enjoys it.
This particular extender mimics the appearance of a real cock and I’m sure that your partner will love it.
If you don’t want to loop the sleeve around your balls, this is also a great extender. You just slide your penis inside and it does the job for you. Don’t forget to use a large amount of lube for both of these toys to avoid hurting yourself and your partner.
Strap-Ons (not as good, but still amazing for size play)
Even though strap-ons aren’t as easy to use and aren’t as cool as extenders, you can still try them out to see whether they work for you. You can experiment with different sizes. This strap-on gives you 8 inches of insertable length and it vibrates (if you want it to). It’s hollow so you can place your dick inside without much hassle.
Try giving the controls of the strap-on to your girlfriend while you’re having sex and see how fast she climaxes.
Have More Questions About Dick Size?
If you’re curious about more experiences of someone with a large dick, don’t hesitate to leave a question in the comments. I’d be happy to discuss any concerns you may have.
Additionally, check out this subreddit:
You can connect with other people who have large dicks and find tons of advice on how to be a better well-equipped lover.
I’m Brandon, I’m one of the main writers and owners of ewsingles (the other being my girlfriend (Willow). My girlfriend and I have an open relationship and share our passion for sex toys, sex and dating.