Most sexually active people engage in regular, standard sex on a day-to-day basis. This includes all the usual poses: missionary, doggy, cowgirl, perhaps in an unusual place or on an unusual surface if the couple is lucky.
There’s nothing wrong with regular sex. It’s easy and relaxing and if everyone gets to orgasm at least once, it gets the job done!
However, perhaps you’d like to venture into something kinkier than that. Maybe you’ve heard of and read about BDSM. Maybe you’re curious about some sex toys. Maybe you’d like to include other people into you and your partner’s sex life. When it comes to pleasures of this kind, there are really no limits to what you can or can’t do, as long as it is safe and sane and all the participants are having a good time.
BDSM, in particular, covers a wide range of kinks and fetishes that would take you an eternity to explore and try them all out. There are roles to consider, preferences, equipment, and a lot more.
Perhaps, if you’re curious about the world and would like to see how it works for you, it would be best to take a BDSM test.
Why You Need To Take A BDSM Test
You don’t actually need to take a BDSM test – plenty of people in this lifestyle are doing fine without it – but it could be useful, especially for beginners. By answering some simple online questions, you get to find out what your tastes are, what you prefer in bed, and what your approximate roles in BDSM would be. All of this is incredibly useful to know when you’re figuring out what you want to do first and looking for potential partners.
Find Out How Kinky You Are
The main benefit of a BDSM test is that you get to find out exactly how kinky you are! The results you get will tell you what fetishes you’ve responded positively to and which are not your favorites, and it will suggest a BDSM role for you. People sometimes spend months, if not years, roleplaying in the bedroom until they fully grasp what feels good for them and what doesn’t.
By taking a simple test like this, you’re shortening that experiment phase to barely a few minutes and you get a neat starting point to help you on your journey!
Find Out If You Are Sexually Compatible With Your Partner
This is another advantage of a BDSM test. If your partner is also into the lifestyle, or also curious about it, it would be great if you could both take the test! That way, you will find out whether or not you are sexually compatible.
It’s no secret that, in BDSM, a submissive partner needs a dom and vice versa. It’s not the end of the world if both of you turn out to be subs or doms (you can always find someone else to include in your BDSM scenes), but it would be great if you were on the opposite sides of that particular powerplay.
Thankfully, my boyfriend and I match pretty well on all the tests (phew).
This wasn’t exactly a concern for me because, as I said, there are ways around it, but I’m happy that we turned out to be pretty compatible in terms of our kinks and preferred roles.
The Best Kink And BDSM Tests
Now that you’re ready to take your BDSM test(s) and learn more about you and your partner’s kinks, let’s see the actual tests! These are incredibly popular in the BDSM community, and they yield accurate results! I hope you’ll take some time to complete them all and see whether or not they give you the same type of results, or if they vary somewhat.
Let’s get to it!
bdsmtest.org
I love tests that you can take anonymously without needing to make an account of any kind, and this BDSM test is exactly like that. You just put in your general information (age, gender identity, sexual orientation) and select what type of test you’d like to do (simple or detailed) and you’re good to go!
The questions are actually statements that you respond to, either by completely agreeing or completely disagreeing or anywhere in between. If you’ve chosen the simple test version, all of this doesn’t take longer than a few minutes, and it may even give you some kinky ideas by the time you’re done.
My Results:
This test gives you a percentage of how much you fit into a certain BDSM role. My main roles turned out to be Submissive and Rope Bunny, and honestly, there’s absolutely no surprise there.
kinktest.org
Similar in question types to the previous test, the Kink Test also gives you statements. Your job is to reply with how much you agree or disagree with them in terms of percentages offered. The questions are a little less inspiring than the previous ones, but they still serve the purpose.
You can also take the Kink Test anonymously and without making an account. In terms of time spent on it, it’s not any longer or shorter than the previous test, though there are no options for a more detailed version if you want to dig deeper into your kinks. Overall, a decent quiz.
My Results: According to the Kink Test, I am a Rope Bunny, a Brat and a Submissive, which is perfectly in line with what I know about myself and with the results of the previous test as well.
Sexual Alpha
The style of this test is different from the others, which is why I’d advise taking it even if you’ve already been through the previous tests. It doesn’t actually offer you a BDSM role you’d best fit into, but a sexual archetype of sorts, a type of sexual partner you are. I love this concept a lot.
The questions are really that: questions with answers you can choose from. You get to pick only one answer per question, making the whole process a little difficult (sometimes I found myself wishing I could pick two or three answers at the same time). It’s simple, it’s unique, it’s anonymous and it doesn’t take long at all!
My Results: The Sexual Alpha’s Kink Test told me I was a Kinky Adventurer. This means that I get turned on by novelty and change and that I constantly need new things in my sex life to keep me excited. The results aren’t wrong at all.
Other Amazing Tests You Should Take
If you’re already finished with the previous tests and would like to take more, here are some other options for you. Some of these are aimed at your partner and some are related to your sexuality rather than kinks, but they’re still great to go through to learn more about this side of yourself. Enjoy!
Old.MojoUpgrade.com (Find Out What Kinks Your Partner Has)
This is a test designed to be taken together with your partner. If you have two computers, it can be taken at the same time, but if you only have one computer that works too. First, one of you answers all the questions and gets their results, and then it’s the other one’s turn.
The questions are mostly tame, related to foreplay, dirty talk, music during sex, oral sex, and similar, but if you choose the Advanced test option, you also get more extreme questions. These pertain to BDSM and dom/sub dynamics, which would be an interesting thing to explore with your partner.
Weshouldtryit.com
I love this one so much. This test is created in much the same way as the previous one, though it is a little bit more interactive and better designed. You take it with your partner (one at a time), and you get to answer so many questions on so many different kinks.
This test gave me ideas more than anything else. It has several ‘packs’, questions that are mostly vanilla but then also questions about BDSM and roleplay, and so many other packs filled with new kinks that you might want to try. It’s great both for learning about yourself and for getting inspired to experiment more!
Spicer.app
The Spicer app has the same principle as the previous test, with many of the same questions, only it’s meant to be taken on the phone. This is better when it comes to speed and convenience because you and your partner can simply do the test on your respective phones without needing to share a computer.
The questions are also divided into packs, and you can answer as many or as few of them as you want. (But it’s preferable to answer more because then you will find out more too!) The app is available for Android and iOS and it is free to download whenever you like.
Kinsey Scale (Test Your Sexuality)
The shortest of all the tests on this list, the Kinsey Scale test has only 7 questions for you to answer. They won’t give you any results about your kinks or potential BDSM roles, but they will give you an idea of what your sexuality is like. If you’re not sure who you want to go to bed with, now may be a good time to find out.
I have to say that the questions in this test are pretty predictable. I already knew from the first three that I’d get the result that I did, and I wasn’t wrong. For someone who is struggling a bit more about their sexuality, this may not be a great choice. Especially since it doesn’t seem to include asexual, pansexual, and demisexual orientations.
Sexual Compatibility Test
You wouldn’t think that Buzzfeed was a good place to take a sexual compatibility test, but here we are. The concept of this test is that you get a numerical score at the end. Your partner should also take the same test, and then you can compare the numbers. The closer they are together, the more compatible you are!
While some of these questions could be considered slightly kinky, they’re nowhere near the level of the first two tests I talked about above (the BDSM Test and the Kink Test). They’re mostly meant as a fun few minutes spent with your partner than any real sexual exploration.
What I Learned About Myself (And My Partner) From Taking These Tests
Long story short, I learned that I was kinkier than I thought. I already knew I was pretty open when it came to sex, but it turns out I have a lot of kinks. And I mean, a lot.
Fortunately, my boyfriend shares a lot of these kinks and I’ve still got a lot of sexual fantasies that I want to explore. Most of them are in the realm of roleplay and bondage – I would love to learn to do more intricate ropework, for example.
My boyfriend and I took a lot of these tests before we started this blog. Motivated by the results and all the kinks we came across, we had tried threesomes, group sex, sharing each other, using sex dolls, and so much more. All these amazing things we’ve done together really helped open things up for us. This is why it’s important to be free and into experimenting! You never know what may come along that makes your head spin in the best of ways.
We also retook the tests later and gave ourselves loads of inspiration on what we should try next. Can’t wait to get started on our new fantasy list.
How Do You Get Your Partner To Take The Test With You?
It may not be the easiest thing to talk about sex, even with your partner. This is especially true if you are kinkier than they are, and you don’t want to scare them away or accidentally push them into something they don’t want to do.
Here are some simple ways for you to get your partner to take a BDSM/kink test with you:
Pick the right moment to ask
If this is somewhat of a taboo topic in your home, don’t just blurt it out when you’re grocery shopping. Choose a moment when you’re both relaxed and not occupied with other things, and when you have some time to discuss this. A quiet evening when you’re either watching TV or reading or doing something that can easily be set aside for a few minutes is a nice option.
Give them space to answer
Don’t expect your partner to immediately jump at the chance of taking the test or talking about their fantasies. If your relationship is new or if your partner is naturally a guarded person, it will take a while for them to digest your question. Don’t badger them for an answer. Rather, give them time and space to process and answer when they’re ready. You’re more likely to get a positive answer like this than by nagging them.
Communication
If your partner is hesitant, it’s good to have a conversation about this. Tell them why you’d like them to take the test. Tell them why it’s important to you. If they’re interested in being with you for the long term and improving your sex life, they will be more inclined to do it.
At the same time, listen to them and their reasons why they might not be so enthusiastic about this. If there are any issues, you need to address, address them now, and talk through what your potential problems could be.
Make A Sexual Bucket List And Add Your Results From The Test
A sexual bucket list is great to have even if you don’t take any tests. It gives you a great overview of what your kinks are and what fantasies you’d like to try, and it’s a neat thing to have when you want to bring these up with your partner. (Also, the feeling of scratching something off that list is amazing.)
Once you both take the kink/BDSM tests, add the things you like the sound of to your list. Not every result has to be on there – especially if it’s a hard no from the other person – but the ones you both think you’ll enjoy. As I said before, these tests are great for inspiration and enriching your kink library.
Take The Test A Few Times
The first time you take a test can be a little intense, so taking it twice over the span of a few weeks gives you time to get used to it and answer more honestly. So don’t be afraid to retake the test when you think you should.
At the same time, it would be good to take these tests on occasion, just to see how your kinks change over the years. What you were into five years ago doesn’t have to be what you’re into today, or what you will be into five years from now. Just as your taste in music and movies changes, so does your taste in fetishes. This is perfectly normal and it’s good to have a test on hand to see in what ways your preferences develop and shift.
What To Do If Your Partner Isn’t A Sexual Match?
First of all, this isn’t a huge catastrophe. If you’re in a happy long-term relationship and you suddenly find out your zodiac signs are incompatible, you’re not going to break up with a partner you love and care for. The same goes for these kink tests.
But say you took the most famous test from bdsmtest.org and it turned out you and your partner wanted completely different things. Say this is a new relationship and you’re debating whether or not the sex will be good. What then?
Here are some handy things you could do if you still want to have fun with each other:
Learn each other’s kinks
You might share a kink or two but just have never uncovered it. Even if you’re not into anything your partner is, it’s good to know what they like so you can surprise them when they least expect it. From my experience, there are few kinks that are a definite no for any one person. If you find out your partner is really into something and you don’t feel strongly about it, either way, you might want to do it just because it gets them so hot.
This brings me to my next point.
Open Up To One Another And Try Both Of Your Kinks
Experiment! Experiment, experiment, experi- I can’t say this enough.
Sex is about enjoying each other and spending quality time together. So relax, have a drink of wine, put on some cute music, and play together. Try some of your partner’s kinks, try some of yours. Mix and match. Make a game of it!
The most important thing is that this shouldn’t be a task or a chore. Sex is for destressing, and you shouldn’t feel obligated to do it in the least. Think of it as a nice way to learn more about your partner, to tease them and get teased in return, and maybe get some great orgasms out of the whole deal.
Leave Your Results Down Below (I Love Reading Them)
Are you going to take any of these tests? If you do, please let me know what your results are. I’d love to learn what my readers are into! Thank you!
I’m Willow, I’m Brandon’s girlfriend and we run this blog together (with the help of some friends). We both have an open relationship and both love being kinky (I mean who doesn’t?). I love writing, music and my Womanizer. If you have any questions leave them in the comments.